Healing requires opening the wound with the “scalpel” of truth and then forgive and love
Mexican writer Don Miguel Ruiz, in his “Art of Love” book, offers his prescription to be healed of emotional wounds. Being a doctor by education, he drew a parallel with physical wounds. First, you take the scalpel and open the wound to let all the pus to come out, this is the most painful operation. Then you wash the wound and in the end, you put a balm and bandages until the wound heals.
In the event of the emotional wound, the truth plays the role of the scalpel. The toughest thing is to admit the truth about yourself it is hindered by the prejudices, stereotypes and false ideas acquired during our lifetime, with which our brains are washed since birth. And one of the falsest of them is that our mental and physical abilities are limited and some things are beyond our power; Actually, what any mortal can do I can do also.
After opening the wound, you should wash it to avoid having any pus left on your skin, the tissues and in the blood, no trace of poison. What does the emotional wound wash? The answer to this question was already given 2000 years ago – the only way to “washing” is forgiveness. Forgive yourself, forgive everyone, forgive even the things that seem impossible to forgive. It is a skill that needs to be learned because our upbringing, as a rule, dictates us the stance of “being offended”, look, what nonsense and disgracing I can do because you, my wife, my friend, my government, my God have offended me. After washing the wound, you should put the medicine and bandage it. Which is this medicine? The answer is given by the same Teacher. The medicine is Love. And it starts, of course, from the love to you. If your soul is filled with this love, then no one can tell you, “I love you if …” You yourself have an abundance of this “product”, so many that you are able to share with others and no one can blackmail you with “ifs” and on conditions. If you receive and donate love unlimited, then all you emotional wounds are healed very quickly. And here I am thinking whether it is possible to heal our society with such a prescription. To say and accept the truth-forgive-love. It seems to me that unfortunately we have not even approached the first phase. The “truths” that are circulating in the media, in the streets and on the Internet, they are fragmented, small group, instinctive, and emotional allegations, which cannot be called truth. In reality, there is no such a pretension. When people ask me on the street whether they need to have hope that things will be good, what, do they expect me to tell the truth? No, they need one of two options for the answers: 1/ yeah, don’t lose your hope (less preferable answer), 2/ No, there is no hope, I’d rather these … (more preferable answer). My sincere answer that “I feel good and you do so that you feel good too” makes people fall into misunderstanding. They understand my words with the spirit of “Count on yourself”, and in this case, it is not clear, “And what about this country? And what about this nation? Accordingly, it is assumed that the robber who has built the palace for him worth of 5 million dollar feels himself good. But it is far from being true. The “scalpel” of brutal truth will function when it is tried to honestly say what is the foundation of 25-years evil, an evil which we have contributed to in one way or another.
Now, if I say my opinion, I will be strongly criticized but it is a “scalpel” and should cause pain. The foundation of the evil is that 25 years ago we, although under some “romantic upheaval” influence, voted “yes” to the independence; we with rare exceptions DID NOT WANT to have a state and no such an issue underlay in the foundation of the Movement in 1988. We wanted to bring our historic lands back, to darn with the Turks, to take avenge of Genocide and we partly succeeded. The concept of a “state” was missing in our subconscious. If it were, we would give an assessment in the preceding 70 years to the key role-players of that period and then would forgive them. I am afraid of the word “lustration” that may lead to minor accounts in our conditions, but we should have assessed the former evils for forgiveness. Those who are 25 years old today, they should have had the terms “state” in their subconscious. If they have, they will understand what was the evil of 25 years. When they understand, they will forgive us. I hope they will forgive.
Aram ABRAHAMYAN
