I accept the traditional wishes like “forget it” or “leave all the problems behind you” with reservation. First of all, because the problems, troubles, challenges, sufferings, failures, misfortunes, and sorrows are extremely conventional and relative features.
They do not come “alone”, they bring also experience, opportunity, a signal; simply it is necessary to see also the positive behind the problems, sorrows and so on, or better to say, “along with them”. The opposite is also true: emptiness, complacency, weakening of vigilance “come” along with any pleasure, success, triumph and so on. The is perfectly mirrored in the famous Buddhism symbol yin-yang: there is a white spot in the black and a black spot in the white. By the way, the same refers to people: black and white are mixed in all of us in different proportions. Or let’s take another example, we cannot abstractly say whether the hot is good or the cold, the sweet or the bitter. If someone will wish us only hot or only sweet in the future life, first of all, it hardly would be a realistic wish, secondly, even if it is possible, then it is less likely that the fulfillment of this wish will provide a full life to any person.
It turned so that I was in the hospital two days before the New Year with no serious problem. But irrespective of the problem, I have also received positive charges from contacting with new people, doctors’ professionalism and care, even the design, and combination of “blue and white” repeated on the uniforms. I am currently talking about the “Nairi” medical center, however, I strongly wish that each of us appearing in a hard, unpleasant and inconvenient situation at the first glance would see the bright and even encouraging sides of it.
When I am asked, “how are you?” I usually answer, “I am wonderful.” The enquirer is usually a sort of embarrassed, “What has happened that you are wonderful?” In fact, there are a lot of things, starting with the fact that I am breathing and ending with the fact that the sun rises every day. Certainly, there are things that cause unpleasantness or inconvenience to me. But we must learn to understand the “message” thereof.
Hence, we people say, “leave all bad things behind you”, I do not agree with them. There were very correct, very bright and very learning elements in the “bad things” of 2016 (at least in the public life). The only thing which should be said, “forget it” are our personal “insults”. If you think that someone has insulted you in the past years, then you sincerely say, “forget it.” But this must be said not every year but every month, every week, and even every day.
Aram ABRAHAMYAN
